A Woman’s Financial Independence

Bharat is a nation which has a history of kings & queens. It was the king who used to take care of all financial matters. Queens, well most of them, took care of other matters in hand. We then witnessed British’s rule. Gandhi encouraged women to work and we saw a new paradigm shift in India’s history. Yet, there was an imbalance in society in terms of financial caretaking at homes. 

Wonder, how much pressure was on men section. Yet, they disapproved! 

Now, we see women creating history. We have financial institutions heads such as SBI, AXIS & ICICI Bank as women. Wonder how this upturn came? Well, to be good, they all had a dream. 

I am a 24-year-old girl, who is looking forward to her life & fulfilling my dreams. And yes, those dreams are not getting settled to anything less. 

My life had certain ifs and buts, some restrictions but had one aspect favoring me. I was told that education has no limit. Luckily, yes, I would call that luck; my mother is a working professional. My Father supported her through this. She proved her way through. She is the reason; those restrictions were not imposed on me. She taught me that her being financially independent brought surprises, good education, a great lifestyle and how she was also the decision maker in family. 

Let’s see how you too can achieve this.

• Work or Hobby?

Hi! It doesn’t matter if you work full time or not. What matters is your passion towards a certain aspect. Even if you have decided to be a homemaker, there are options to use the free time as an earning source. These days’ freelancing, work from home or at-home business, everything is attainable. So, let just not stay & relax in your free time. Develop a hobby, learn something new, look for a way to use the talent in hand to play your cards right.

• Invest! Invest! Invest!

I salute to all housewives, whom in modern world address as homemakers or family managers. They are the reason for all fund management and further saving for the family. 

But ladies, never ever keep your extra money in a cash form at home and call it emergency money. Invest it to earn interest. Start a RD or SIP of your own. This way, in times of need you would be sure that you are self-sufficient to take care. As it is we all know how easy it is for cash to get spent.

• Spend it good, but not all of it!

Yes, I know. We just love shopping. But once you have started this journey of financial independence, keep a tap on urges. Never think of it as an extra income in family. It’s not extra. It’s a part of income.

We are free, for we dare to dream & achieve. We are daring, for we spend & save. We are happy because we are financially independent

Having mentioned all this, I would love to jump in with all of you to this happy moment, in our celebration groove. And the next time you need money, look towards your wallet not a family member.

Happy Independence!

Can you help me?

We all might have read numerous blogs, novels on how a relationship made them toxic. How they were in desperate need to move on. Have you read what goes in the mind of a person causing that toxicity?

Well, let’s start talking on that aspect too. I am no psychiatrist to unveil all kinds of people with this negativity. But I can truly tell how I created that negativity in my own relationship.

My relationship with him started 5 years ago. It was all beautiful in beginning for us. I was having all happy hormones inside me growing. But then hormones tend to jump in with highs and lows.

Few things were in my control and some were involuntary. 30 days of a month, I had a twisted mind for 15 days. That makes 50% of the time I was making a person feel highly demotivated.

I have PCOS. Very common, very! But wasn’t common for me. But This isn’t about me. This is about him.

I made him happy at times with my chirpiness but when I wasn’t, I made him feel how neglected he could be. Trust me he wasn’t. I went off my pills for a year & the hell broke loose that year. But he was there, Taking it all in. I wasn’t an easy person. I would torture him with my confusing behaviour. He felt it all through.

Today when I write this, I again had created a very difficult environment for him. I promised to him I was off the pill but i lied. Because I was scared to death. Apparently, the pill doesn’t work wonders. A realisation now.

We thought of breaking up, & I am scared slowly I am pushing him away. I am worried if I am torturing him with me. He loves me truly, in his own way. But am I right in creating this difficult for him? I should rather be walking away to help him move up in life.

I asked him if I am right for you? He didn’t hesitate. But I am hesitating now. It’s right that I am a person who isn’t in her self control but I cannot be a person who ruins anyone’s life, let alone his.

He is my lifeline but not at the cost of his own mental peace. What should I do?

Traveling solo, how?

Mountains or beaches or somewhere in between?

There might not be a soul on earth who would say, I don’t like travelling to old or new places. Everyone loves that!!

But group or solo?

Off recently, I have these urges to travel to a new place. Because honestly, attending weddings isn’t being a traveller.

But, I am so engrossed with friends or family around, that it never happened that I could know what solo travelling would mean. Now, that when all of them are so busy in their own lives or work routines, I wish to take a break, & travel around, SOLO!

It’s great to be around with known faces, but I want to know something new. I want to be a person who can travel alone & not stay in a hotel room thinking about what next to do.

So you, my reader. This time there are no thoughts of mine. This time I wish to know yours. Help me how do I go about this? All solo travellers, I have the willingness now, what is next to get me all started? This has to start soon, very soon!!

Hi! Is your boy, a Muma’s boy?

Is it?

When a child is born, the first emotional, physical & spiritual contact is with its mother. Science says that a son is more attached to his mother & a daughter to his father.

Now, are you feeling a few things, which I am going to mention now?

Your boyfriend or husband or love, as you may call, is always more inclined towards his mother & his family?

Are you coming late on his priority list?

Is your time with him, split into two zones?

Are his decisions taken after consideration with his mother? Are those more angled towards his family first?

Do you say to him that you are such a Muma’s boy?

Well! Well!

Ladies, what I am going to say might be an eye-opener or you may feel otherwise.

In a world when even nuclear families fail to exist, there is nothing wrong if he makes effort to stay on those.

If you have a brother or two, how would you feel if your parents feel ignored? Doesn’t sound good to me!!

Yes, I have a brother & I play a vital role in most of his decisions. Anyways, I don’t find that alarming. I understand his stance & what his girl might feel too.

Yet, now, take a pause on this note, and look at yours too. You don’t have to base your decisions because he took his.

You may be late in priority, but when you need him the most, if he isn’t there, move on girl!!

Any life-changing event’s decision should have your, your family’s, his & his family’s consent. This isn’t a competition who came first.

Do note, if his folks think of you before taking any steps. We don’t like selfish ones.

Don’t blame him to be a Muma’s boy, but don’t let your importance stand in a puddle.

Take a stand & Give him respect. Go mutually not at par.

Keep loving fellas!!

-UnsophisticatedBird

Talaq! Talaq! Talaq!

Yesterday, 22nd August,’17, Supreme court gave ‘talaq’ to the instant three word usage. And then we had Mohd Kaif openly supporting this verdict and hence finally came those, who did not approve.

Well obviously, if a decision is made, there are non-supporters every time. And this was practiced for a good 1400 years.

Can we now say that ‘ache dinn aagye’?

Is this the beginning of something good? Will this stop men leaving their wives without reason? Will this decrease the amount of ‘outside home polygamy’? Will this abolish mental and physical torture?

No, don’t get me wrong here! I am not talking about women rights. Not at all! I want you all to know, that these issues are gender equal. What wrong happened with Bano, similar might have happened with a man. But left unsaid, as sharing such talks is not a right of a man.

Every news since yesterday has been mentioning about women victory. These ladies did a commendable job for they stood up. You see happiness while they speak, mention about cheers they received.

And then there are silent speakers who prayed for these ladies. They could not take a stand. Why? Oh! See his wife divorced him. Is he a man? Why didn’t he controlled her? He does not have the balls to tame a lady.

So there were silent men who wanted to have a happy family but some non-path following wives could not provide to.

Here, I congratulate off brave ladies and those silent brave hearts who made this triple T unconstitutional.

“Chalo kuch toh safayi hogi”

Car scratched? No worries!!

"She is not just four wheels and an engine, she is home" 
 
Love at first sight is when you see your new car and you know she is the one. No matter how strong the car may be, we clean it as though it was the most fragile thing on the planet. Our clothes may say 'handle with care' but it’s our car that steals all the love. And what may be the biggest nightmare? Well of course, apart from getting stolen; a scratch. 
 
A car's body is just like a human body. As we have layers of skin so does it have layers of paint! Let us understand the various types of hurtful scratches it may get, and yes, how to get rid of them. 
 
1. Clear coat scratch
 
Just like we get some random scratches on our skin, having no pain but a tiny mark, that’s exactly what our car's scratches are like. The clear coat protects our car from sunlight, dust and the weather. A scratch on this is easy to handle. 
 
You need: Soapy water, polishing compound, and a clean cloth,
 
Steps: 
a) Clean the scratch with soapy water to get rid of all the dirt.
b) Apply a small amount of polishing compound on a pad or a microfiber cloth.
c) Polish the area with 10-12 strokes.
d) Pat the area dry and repeat if required. 
 
Simple, isn't it?   
 
2. Primer scratch 
 
Primer scratch is a step forward than clear coat scratch. This is similar to when a scratch leads to bleeding. This type of scratch goes beyond the color coat into the primer or right down to the metal. 
 
You need: Soapy water, sand with an ultra-fine automotive sand paper, and paint.
 
Steps: 
a) Wash the scratch with soapy water to remove the dirt and oil. Dry it with a towel.
b) Carefully apply the primer on scratch and let it rest overnight. 
c) Dip the ultra-fine automotive sand paper in water and start rubbing over the scratch in a circular motion.
d) Stop scrubbing when the standing color on surface is gone. 
e) Apply compound over the affected area. 
f) Now apply more paint to remove the residuals of the scratch.
g) To regain the glossy look, apply compound at the last step and you are good to go. 
 
Be the doctor to your car. Happy cleaning!
 

Kahani

                            

कुछ इस तरह बयान हुआ हूँ, इक क़िस्सा बन गया हूँ ।

शब्दों की माला में पिरोया हुआ, वो धागा चीर सा गया है ।
सफ़राना जब शुरू हुआ, हर ज़बान ने बदला 

बेगाना हुआ ख़ुद से ही, रास्ता मेरा ।
क्या क़िस्सा क्या कहानी 

हर रंग में रंगा ।
किसी में राजा किसी में फ़क़ीर 

किसी में पूरा मैं, किसी में इक लकीर ।

 

वो इक सोच से जन्मा था

अब हज़ारों सोच के नीचे दब चुका हु ।
                 – UnsophisticatedBird

I promise. Do you?

A young lady started her career of dreams. She was determined to rule the world. She did not expect anything from the world but just followed a shining path of twinkling dreams. She was all enthusiastic and working with complete zeal. But soon, life took over and she was loosing that brightness. Situations affected her so much. She then had a thought! May be her friends were happy and she should look for something new. Five months passed and suddenly she was aged with stress. Once a flying bird was now just drooling over useless thoughts. 

Relative?

Is life throwing hardcore fighting situations at you? If yes, then you are a lucky one. To all the new freshers starting their career, this is called getting experience. 

I do not say that you settle for less, but how do you know your worth? You took this job! No one forced it on you.  Then why this moving away from your duties? 

Stress has turned out to be so pathetic with us that at 23 we look like 30. We have no idea but we talk great things. We tend to see ourselves as a winner but loosing control on our lives. Whoever said, if stressed you should eat desserts, is a liar. 

Enough of this gyaan!!

I wish to promise few things to myself today. I promise I will be giving my best from today itself. I promise to handle myself so that I dont have to take sick leaves anymore. I promise to keep myself happy. 

Happiness is never boring 🙂

God may know, but when will you??

Have you ever seen stones beneath a forceful river? Looks all shiny and clean, yes true! But look closely, there are the holes which the river’s flow did to it. 

People say stay strong and things will get better eventually and you will reclaim peace for yourself. 

Tell me, a battlefield can easily transform you but what if you are fighting in the wrong one? 

That stone looked glossy but it was ruptured from inside. The complete point is know what you are fighting against is right one. Every situation may teach you a lesson and it may be binding. Whatever may be, make sure you are storming into right lessons. 

Life can not impose anything over you, you got to make a choice, the right battle !!

Magic

जो जादू घर के राज्मा चावल कर सकते है..

वो दुनिया का कोई जादूगर नहीं कर सकता ।।

End of the topic !! 😍